I recently got engaged. My best pal played a big role in organising it along with my family members. I have been friends with her from school days. We went to the same college too. There is nothing that she does not know about me.
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A lot of my pals and family attended the engagement. I had a good time, but suddenly her behaviour turned odd. During the function itself she started taking a backseat when my to-be in-laws and other family members took the forefront. She did not seem to be sharing my happiness. I found her distancing herself from what was happening. The next day when I asked her what was wrong, she said that I was giving more attention to the others. I was taken aback. How could she be so insecure? She felt that our friendship would take a backseat as I would be too engrossed with my husband to-be and the rest of his family.
Your best pal feels that your engagement and then marriage might leave you with little time for her. Or perhaps she thinks you will not be as close to her as she wants you to be. Or may be she is just being insecure about sharing her affections with someone else. Your pal is doing all this because she feels she will have not have your full attention as before. Some people love to be dramatic. Your friend belongs to this group of people. Instead of worrying about the reaction of your pal, put her fears to rest. There is place for friends too after marriage. Explain to her that it will not affect the relation you have with her. She seemed to have been taken in by what was happening at the engagement and vented her ire. Pacify her and tell her you will always be there for her.
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