I'm 27 and my boyfriend is 28. Of late, I have became obsessed with him. I have become jealous and paranoid, so end up keeping tabs on his whereabouts. This has started to push him away. Now, it looks like he has abandoned me for good. After weeks of crying alone, I've tried to contact him, but he hasn't replied even once. Is it over between us? He has just dumped me suddenly.
You created the problem, so only you can find a solution to it. When everything was going fine, why did you suddenly develop paranoia. It is obvious that he does not like your changed behaviour. You need to make amends by apologising to him and explain to him that things will be like before. You need to reach out to him and he is sure to play difficult, but this is your doing so you will have make him realise how sorry you are.
My girlfriend and I now barely speak. We have just drifted apart and I cannot pinpoint a single reason why she is upset with me. I still love her and I don't know why there is nothing left between us. I can't stop feeling bad for myself. I want our relationship to be back on track. I have tried to contact her and tell her how I feel. But she has been avoiding me. I guess either she has found someone else or is no longer interested in me. We have been together for four years.
You don't know what has irked your girlfriend. Perhaps she got bored in the relationship or unknowingly you have hurt her. Whatever the reason, she needs to tell you what has been the source of discomfort for her. It is not clear if she has found someone else, so instead of speculating, talk to her and find out what is going on in her mind.
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