'My boyfriend has got engaged to someone else...'

Oct 12, 2015, 06:43 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
The guy I was with for three years has got engaged to someone else. He tells me his parents forced him, as the girl's family is known to them. He did not even tell me about the ceremony. I got to know from others the next morning. When I questioned him, he just shrugged his shoulders and said that it was parental pressure. I do not understand how he could have behaved in this manner. All this while, he was planning a future with me and then he goes and gets engaged to someone else. Should I just forget him? But I am still in love with him. At the same time, I want to scream at him for what he has done. Things happened too soon and I was not prepared for it. He says he is not too keen to get married, but just agreed to the engagement. As it is he has ruined my life, I do not want him to mess up the life of this other girl too. Should I tell his family about what he has done? Our affair was a well-kept secret as he felt his family would not accept me.
— Soundarya

Dear Soundarya,
Your boyfriend cannot be trusted. Do you think he cares for you? If he had, he would not have allowed the engagement to take place. He would have told his family members that there was someone on his scene and convinced them to accept you. The fact that he kept it hidden proves that he was not serious about you. He just wanted to have a good time with you and when it came to marriage, it was a girl of his family's choice. If he really cared for you, he would have stopped the engagement. What does he mean by saying that he will not marry the girl? When it is time, he will again say family pressures forced him to wed. Be wary of this guy. There is no point wasting your time with him. Get going with your life and find someone who cares for you.

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