'My boyfriend is demanding a physical relationship...'

Dear Diana,
I am 20 and my boyfriend is of the same age. We have been together for three months. He wants a physical relationship, but I am not ready for it. How do I tell him I don't want to? Whenever I refuse to give in, he gets angry and annoyed. He tells me that there are plenty of girls who will sleep with him if I don't. I don't wish to lose him.
— Ravina

Dear Diana 

Dear Ravina,
He needs to know exactly how you feel and he needs to respect it. You have your reasons for not doing it and if he truly loves you, he will understand. He can't force you into a physical relationship at this juncture as it appears you are unsure of a future with him. You are still young. Tell him you like him and want to spend time with him, but let him know where your boundaries are till you are sure about the relationship. Communication is the key to a successful relationship.

Dear Diana,
I am a single mother of two children. I haven't had the best of luck when it comes to my decisions concerning men in the past. I recently met someone who seems to be a nice guy. Not perfect, but nice. I've matured a lot over the years and I feel I have a lot to offer in a relationship. We've only been together two weeks and he is yet to meet my children, but we've been talking about marriage and a future together. He seems to be in a hurry to be with me.
— Sonalika

Dear Sonalika,
As they say, once bitten twice shy. As you have had your share of bad relationships, you need to be wary before taking the plunge again. It is strange that this guy is in such a hurry to marry you barely two weeks of knowing you. You need to check his past and what are his intentions. You cannot afford a heartbreak yet again. Tell him you need time before making any such big decision.

Diana will solve it!
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