My wife has been having an affair with a guy at her work place. I had no clue till one of my cousins spotted them at a cinema hall. She had gone with her college pals and was was shocked to see that they could not keep their hands off each other. I have been married for two years. I am shattered and still coming to terms with what my wife has done. She would often work late hours and I now understand that it was this guy, and not work, that kept her busy. She kept lying and coming up with excuses whenever I felt things were amiss. I have accosted her and told her to reveal the truth. Initially, she cooked up a story of mistaken identities, but later admitted to the relationship. My world has gone topsy-turvy. I have also had a verbal spat with the guy at her workplace. He is also married. He says he is caught in an unhappy marriage and found solace in her arms. They are apologetic and say they won’t meet again. My wife has already quit her job. I really don’t know what to do.
Your wife has indulged in an extra-marital affair. She may ask for forgiveness and make amends, but the trust is broken. You have to decide whether you want her back in your life or want to go your way. There is no point venting your ire towards the guy as you only have your wife to blame. She surely knew that sooner or later she would be caught redhanded. It is strange that you did not suspect that anything was amiss. She got away with her lies. You need help from other family members to get out of the mess and plan the future course of action. Are you ready to forgive and forget her? If so, you will have to begin anew and work on building the marriage. If not, you need to take legal recourse for a separation. Whatever you choose, think twice before taking any decision.
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