I have been in a relationship for a year now. My girlfriend has had a string of affairs. This was before I came on the scene. Now she tells me that she can't stay faithful to me. She tells me that she also likes a man from her office. I don't know how to react.
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It is clear that this girl cannot be trusted. She can't make up her mind who to be faithful to. She seems to fall for any guy who comes her way. She will find someone else somewhere and dump you. You need to sit down and tell her that she needs to choose Mr Right. At the moment she seems to be in a phase where she is hooking up with whoever catches her fancy. She is in no mood to commit, so she's taking you for a ride. If you still care for her and want to be heartbroken, stick around only to hear her love tales. Or the better option is to go your way, before this girl tells you about some other guy who has caught her fancy.
I'm 27 and work in a bank. I like this guy who I met during a conference. He stays in Surat, but comes to Mumbai every now and then. My family is pestering me to get married. I told my guy about it and how I will have to go with my family's wishes. Ever since he has stopped calling me or meeting me when he is in Mumbai. Why did he take offence to what I said?
You have kept your affair a secret. If you were serious about him, you would have informed your folks. By telling him that you will go with your family's choice, you have given him a hint. It looks like he was thinking of a future together. So tell your folks that there is already someone on the scene and not to indulge in groom hunting for you. Meanwhile, tell him that you care for him and not to be upset about it.
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