My girlfriend and I were together for over a year. We love each other a lot and had been thinking of marriage. Her mom, however, does not like me. She told my girlfriend to choose between me and her. As she did not want to go against her folks, she dumped me. She has cut off all contact with me. What do I do?
If your girl truly felt for you, such a situation would not have arisen. For over a year, you were with her, so she had adequate time to convince her mom and explain how serious you two were as marriage was on the cards. She strangely could not make her mother realise what you meant and dropped you like a hot potato. First, instead of pining for her, think whether your girl really cared for you. If she did, the question of choosing would not have arisen. It is clear that she was not serious about you, she has moved on, it's better that you do the same.
I was friends with this guy in college. I sort of had a crush on him, but I wasn't sure. When my friends got to know about this, they spread the rumour that I'm in love with him. Since that episode, he has been avoiding me. I don't know how to approach him and let him see things my way. But then, I won't deny that I do feel a bit for him. I'm in a conflicted state of mind now.
Your mind is all muddled up, no wonder your pals took advantage of the situation and spread the news. You need to clear all doubts from your mind and decide whether he is the guy for you. You can't say that you sort of have a crush on him. By making such juvenile statements, you are ending up being a fool yourself. Once you are sure, tell him honestly what you felt to dispel any doubts.
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