'My girlfriend visits online dating sites...'

Sep 29, 2014, 06:24 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I have been with my girlfriend for almost two years. A month ago, I discovered that she had been visiting online dating sites. On asking her, she told me she never did. But I keep checking the history on her laptop, and she is clearly a liar. When I questioned her again, she told me she just did it for kicks. She also told me I had no business checking her chat history. Now, I'm afraid to love her the way I did before as I do not trust her now.
— Youhan

Illustration/Amit Bandre
Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Youhan,
You have been regularly checking the chat history on your girlfriend's laptop. This is a clear sign that you do not trust her. She may have been aware of it due to which she started visiting online dating sites. You belong to those group of guys who are always going through personal stuff of their girlfriends and wives. A relationship is based on trust, not suspicion. Sit down and talk to her about it. Hear her out and then accordingly take a decision.

Dear Diana,
I am a 41-year-old divorcee with no kids. I am in a relationship with a 38-year-old man. We've been meeting each other for the past four months. His parents are not too happy with me. They feel their son could have found someone else. As I am a divorcee, they have their set of apprehensions. What should we do?
— Irma

Dear Irma,
Your guy should try and convince his family members. He has to make his folks realise that he loves you and cares for you. He has to put all their fears to rest. At the same time, be cordial whenever you meet them. Antagonising them will worsen the situation and they will be hostile towards you. Win them over and impress his parents while the guy puts all their fears and apprehensions to rest.

Diana will solve it!
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