After three years of being together, my guy and I now barely speak. We are drifting apart and we no longer care about each other. I do not know what went wrong and why we are behaving like this. I cannot attribute it to any single reason. Time was when we could not do without each other, but now there is nothing left between us. At the same time, I can’t stop feeling bad for what has happened. I want things to be like before. I miss those days. I have tried to tell my guy how I feel, but he does not care. Has he found someone else? Or has our relationship reached a plateau and we are just bored of each other. What do I do? Let things remain as they are or should we take a break? As it is we have not been in touch for the past month. My guy does not even seem interested in talking to me.
It appears that you are bored in the relationship. There is no spark left in the relationship as you have taken each other for granted. May be you are busy in your daily routine and there is no time left in building the relationship. Your guy has not been communicating with you for the past month, but has not been telling you his source of discomfort. You two need to start talking and telling each other why things are going wrong. It is not clear if he has found someone else, so instead of guessing, ask him and find out what is going on in his mind. If you cannot sit and sort out the differences, you need to take a break from each other. This will help you take stock of where you see yourself in the relationship and whether you want to continue being in it.
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