'My guy dumped me and took off for a new job...'
After going out with this guy for four years, he walked out on me all of a sudden. I had no inkling that he was relocating. It came as a bolt from the blue. To make matters worse, I did not hear it from him, but through a common friend. He had told his pal to tell me after he left the country. I was shocked to know that he had taken up a job in the Gulf. For the past five months, he would say he was busy and tied up with his family business. Now I know the real reason. He was doing all the paperwork for his departure. I still cannot believe that he could do this to me. He would speak of a future together. His pal further told me that this was in my best interests as his family was not ready to accept me. He could not even muster up the courage to tell me what was going on. What should I do? Should I just move on? I am both angry as well as hurt.
Your guy is spineless and a coward who was not man enough tell you the truth on your face. He chose a friend to reveal the harsh reality. After being with him all these years, the least he could do was to commit. Far from that, he did not even see it important enough to tell you what was happening. He certainly owed you an explanation. It is clear that he did not care for you. If he had, he would not have resorted to such a drastic step. You are nursing a broken heart, but there is no point in crying for this guy who turned out to be a jerk. Get going with your life and do not listen to any more tales from this common friend. If he felt his family would not accept you, why did he even go around with you all these years? Why did he not even try to talk to them? He was not at all serious about you.
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