I'm 27 and recently broke up with my boyfriend of three years. I found out that he and a friend of mine were involved with each other behind my back. I just stopped talking to them. At the same time, I feel I don't really know whether I'm doing the right thing by not creating a scene. Or should have I given the relationship a second chance?
Your guy and your pal hooked up behind your back, and you still want to give him a second chance? No way! Get going with your life and let them be. Creating a scene may make you feel better, but it will create more bitterness. At the end you will turn out to be the fool as you were unaware what was happening. It will be difficult for you, but you must move on and next time when you are in a relationship, be wary.
I lost my father one year ago. My mother is 40, but she looks young. My dad's sudden death has left her feeling lonely. I want her to move on in life and find someone. I'm her only child and I genuinely believe that she should go out. I just don't know how to go about this idea. I am 16 and busy with my studies and and friends. I have been telling her to find someone, but she appears to be shocked that I could even tell her this.
Give your mother time to heal. It has been only a year, so she will take a while to get back to life. Over a period of time, she may — or may not — find someone. It appears that you have been coaxing her to move on and find someone. Such things can't happen overnight and it takes a while. You can meanwhile do your bit to keep her happy and get back to how she was before your father's death. You seem to be mature beyond your age, if your mom finds someone of the same wavelength, she can move on.
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