Dear Diana,
I'm 27 and in a relationship with a 30-year-old. We are from Delhi and are currently in Mumbai for better job prospects. My boyfriend is good-for-nothing, but I changed his attitude towards life and that's how he could find his feet. Now with the shift to Mumbai, he has got back to his earlier self. He has already changed jobs twice and says he had to put on the facade to enable a shift to Mumbai. I feel cheated and want to move on.
— Shahana

Illustration/ Amit Bandre
Illustration/ Amit Bandre

Dear Shahana,
Even if you try to change him again, this man is going back to his earlier ways. He has proved that he is good-for-nothing and wants to stay that way. Start a new life and you will be happier and better without him. It is also clear that he just does not care for you — and you have suffered enough. Give him a last warning and some time. If he refuses to change, it is better that you end the relationship.

Diana will solve it!
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