'My guy just wanted to get physical...'

Dear Diana,
My boyfriend and I were going slow in our relationship. He obeyed my wish not to get physical. However last week, I gave in and after sleeping together, he is a changed man. He doesn't seem interested in me anymore. It is as if he just wanted sex and now that the job has been done, it is time to move on. It is upsetting me that I was just used to satisfy his physical urges.
— Haruna

Illustration/Amit Bandre
Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Haruna,
It is clear that this guy only had sex on his mind. If he really loved you and cared for you, he would not have behaved in this atrocious manner. You need to tell him exactly how you feel. He needs to know that he has hurt you badly. Also, he needs to tell you what has ticked him off. Not that he will make amends, but he owes you an explanation. Next time be wary of the guy you befriend — get to know what is on his mind to avoid heartbreak.

Dear Diana,
I like this girl at my workplace. I have expressed my feelings for her even though she has a guy in her life — that is what she tells me. I can't get her out of my head. She tells me I am just a friend for her. What do I do? I am hoping that she breaks off with the guy as I feel no one will love her the way I do. I am obsessed about her. At the same time, she spends a lot of time with me as well. A clear indication that she cares for me.
— Mayuresh

Dear Mayuresh,
The girl has told you that she has someone else on the scene. You are mistaking her friendship for love. So what if she spends time with you? She is an office colleague, so she spends her working hours with you. It is only you in this relationship. It is clearly a one-sided affair, but you are still obsessed with her. The faster you get on with your life, the better for you. Find someone who will reciprocate your love.

Diana will solve it!
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