I am in a live-in relationship with my boyfriend of two years. He used to be devoted to me during the early days of our courtship, but as of now, he seems more interested in seeing his friend over the weekends. They get together and watch football matches and totally cut me off — as if I don't exist, let alone a member of the house. They are constantly here as if it's them in a relationship, not we two.
Initially it was a new relationship, so your guy gave you a lot of attention, but now that things have settled down, he is doing his own things as well. As you are in a live-in relationship, you are also around when his pals drop in. But it does not mean that he has cut you off from his life. He cannot be with you only 24/7; he needs to be with his pals as well. You can also spend time with your girl gang. It is more important to spend quality time, rather than quantity time.
A few weeks ago, I met this guy at a birthday party and one thing led to another. I was attracted to him. I assumed he was my guy now. He is a pal of an office colleague at whose place the bash was held. Last week, I come to know that my colleague has been flirting with my boyfriend. On being confronted, both of them say that they didn't think I was serious about him. I don't know what to do.
You assumed that he was your guy, but what stopped you from asking him? In the same way, your colleague assumed that there was nothing serious between the two of you. It is clear that this guy does not think of you as a girlfriend or he would not be flirting around with someone else.
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