I'm 24 and by my own confession, a motormouth. I'm talkative by nature and am known to spill secrets — unintentionally though. Thanks to this understandably mistaken nature of mine, my boyfriend keeps mentioning that he doesn't find me trustworthy enough. It's quite obvious that I love him to bits, but he somehow tries to score a point by focussing on my inadequacies.
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If you go around blurting out whatever you or he did, it is pretty obvious that he will be offended. Being of a friendly disposition is one thing, but you should know when to draw the line. If you are telling all your personal tidbits to those around, it is a cause of alarm. He may not be as outgoing as you, so he has his reasons for not spilling the beans. Stop yourself from saying personal stuff, take a deep breath whenever you feel you are in a motormouth mode. This will stop you from telling all. Once he realises that you are not revealing everything, he will regain the confidence he had in you.
Diana will solve it!
Write to Diana at firstname.lastname@example.org, or fax her on 24150009. You can also post letters to Dear Diana, Mid Day, Peninsula Centre, Dr S S Rao Road, opp Mahatma Gandhi Hospital, Parel, Mumbai 400012