'My hubby is unaware that I'm in touch with my lover...'

Jan 14, 2016, 06:00 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I got married five months ago. It was an arranged marriage. There is a guy on my scene and though I am married, I continue to be in touch with him. I was too scared to tell my parents about him because of class differences. My family is clueless about the relationship. I have known him for the past two years. As we have been discreet, our relationship is under wraps. Except for the two of us, no one knows about it. I keep talking to him on the phone and messaging hin. Meeting him is difficult now as whenever I step out, my husband is with me. I have not told him about my lover. Now as days pass, it is getting increasingly difficult to meet him. This is making him angry. My lover then hollers for not caring about him. Once in a fit of rage, he even said that he will come and meet my husband and tell him the truth. Seeing this side of him has made me scared. What should I do? My husband is loving and kind.
– Juhi

Illustration/Uday Mohite
Illustration/Uday Mohite

Dear Juhi,
First of all, you are playing with fire, so get ready to be scorched. You are married and indulging in an extra marital affair. You have not only kept your parents in the dark about your relationship, but even your husband. The poor guy has no clue what you are up to behind his back. Sooner or later, they will find out and then all hell will break loose. You need to cut off all ties with your lover. He is already showing his true side by threatening to expose you. Before he takes recourse to any extreme step, tell him it is over. You need to tell your hubby the truth and hopefully, he will forgive you. If you do not confide in him, your lover will surely spill the beans. If you loved this guy, you should have mustered courage to tell your family about him. You did not, so now do not ruin your caring and loving husband's life.

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