My husband is extremely unreasonable and demanding. Everyone has to do things his way. If he does not like something, no one can do it. At the same time, if I detest something he likes, I cannot express myself. He also has anger management issues. He knows it’s a problem, and I’ve always been understanding and supportive. Now I can take it no more. Our daughter, who is 10, is also often berated for not doing what he wants.
Your hubby is a tough nut to crack. He is not only stubborn, but also highhanded and controlling. Many people believe that if their way is not followed, then they will lose control over others and will not be considered important. Your husband is in no mood to listen. He has a problem and needs help. He needs counselling. It will be tough, but be patient. Also, in one of those rare moments when he is slightly mellow, explain to him how you feel about the situation.
I have been married for 23 years. We have a 16-year-old son and a 14-year-old daughter. My entire married life has been spent cooped up at home. I realise now that there are many things I have lost on in life. I gave up my career. I also had to cut ties with some family members who were opposing the marriage. I now really wonder whether I did was right. Or am I thinking too much? Now that my children have grown up, such thoughts keep creeping into my mind.
This is the life you chose at that particular point of time. You thought that was the best for you. There is no point crying over spilt milk. You have time on hand now, so go forth now and pursue what you like. Let the past remain a memory.
Diana will solve it!
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