I have been with my guy for three months. A friend of mine recently told me about his past. According to her, he is not a good guy and not my type. She is telling me to break off with him. My pal feels he will cheat on me or take advantage of me and then dump me. I do not know what to do. Things have been going well between us. From his behaviour, he does not look the type who will behave in a rude manner. I don’t want to get hurt, so I am confused? Should I break up with him? Or should I tell him what my pal has been saying about him? This friend of mine is known to create trouble. I do not know whether to believe her or not. Another friend of mine is telling me that this girl is filling my ears as she was interested in him earlier.
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This girl might have an agenda and does not want you to be with him. She has been filling in your ears, but there is no need to fall prey to her idle talk. She has a vested interest in him as your other pal has informed you. She was interested in him earlier and you do not know exactly what had transpired. She appears to be a trouble maker. It is only one person telling you about your guy, it is not that several people have been cautioning you about him. This girl surely has ulterior motives. The guy may not have given her attention, so this is her way of creating trouble for him. What has stopped you from revealing all her nonsense talk to your guy? May be he will know better what this girl was up to in the past. If you two are going strong in the relationship, do not worry too much about it. The next time she comes with her bag of tales, just tell her you will check with your guy whether it is true or not. I am sure she will then backtrack. As you are giving her a patient ear, she has been repeatedly telling you her nonsense. Stop being insecure and get going with your life.
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