'My parents are stopping me from marrying a divorcee...'
I am 28 and have fallen for a divorcee. I met him through common friends. I have been with him for over a year. He is 39, but looks younger. Friends tell me his earlier marriage ended in a divorce as he is a difficult person to live with. I have not seen this side of him. He has told me that he and his wife just did not gel as it was an arranged marriage, so it was best for them to go their way. He does not want to talk about his past as he feels it is a closed chapter of his life. I have not hidden my friendship with him from my family. They have expressed their reservations about marrying him, but that is understandable because of his past. I am determined to marry him though he is keen that my family, too, accept him. I am convinced he is the guy for me and I am sure our marriage will work. How do I convince my parents that he is the man for me?
Your family's fears are understandable. They are concerned as they want the best for you. You may be convinced about the guy, but give them time to give you their stamp of approval. Age is a number and if there is a connect between you two, the age gap does not matter. You two are mature enough to talk things out with your family members. Your guy should explain what went wrong in his earlier marriage to put their fears to rest. Go forth with an open mind and convince your folks that he is keen to begin life anew. I am sure they will give you a patient ear. It will take time, but gradually when they get to know him and get comfortable with him, things will be easier.
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