'My partner does not care about hygiene...'

Apr 09, 2014, 08:40 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I love my partner dearly, but I can't cope with his aversion to hygiene. He wasn't like this when I first met him. We are in a live-in relationship, but I hate having him in bed because quite frankly, he smells. The idea of sex with him is abhorrent for the same reason. I've told him about it, but he just does not care. He has become a messy lazy slob.
— Mareeta


Dear Mareeta,
Hygiene isn't an option, it's a necessity. He can't move around raising a stink. Stock up on men's body washes, shampoos, deos, after-shave, colognes and perfumes. Tell him how important it is to use such products— the reason why a plethora of them are available in the market. Refuse to go out with him in public because it is embarrassing as he raises a stink. During summer time, it can be revolting. If he is lazy, you need to give him an ultimatum so that he takes it seriously. Lack of hygiene can also cause disease and because of him you are exposing yourself to the germs as well.

Dear Diana,
I'm 25 and my girlfriend is also 25. She hates going out. I have to force her to get out of the house nowadays. I don't know what's bothering her. We've been together for two years and go out and have fun once every three to four months. I don't know why she behaves like this and avoids public places.
— Akshit

Dear Akshit,
She appears to be of a shy disposition or perhaps gets self conscious in public. There are many people out there who can keep themselves busy within the confines of their house and not get bored. Ask her the reason why she hates going out. May be she has a phobia about something or has low self-esteem. Whatever the reason, you need to make her come out of her shell and be more outgoing. It will take time, but give it your best shot.

Diana will solve it!
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