'My wife is still in touch with her lover...'

Jul 08, 2015, 06:00 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I got married in January this year. It was an arranged marriage. Within two months of our marriage, I came to know that my wife was still in touch with her lover and that she had got married to me due to parental pressures. I confronted her and she admitted that she was still in love with her guy and regularly meets him. At the same time, she told me that she did not want to end the marriage. She knew that they would never approve of her guy, so kept it under wraps from them. I have already told her family about it, but they feel I am lying as they are unaware of her affair. They have this image of her as a loving, dutiful daughter which she is definitely not as she is having a rollicking affair behind their back. She has not even bothered to tell them what is going on. She has messed up my life and causing me a lot of stress. What should I do? I want to leave her, but not so easily. I want her to realise the agony she has caused me.
— Dhairya

Dear Diana

Dear Dhairya,
This woman has taken you and your family for a ride. She had no business marrying you when she was in love with someone else. Her parents are now feigning ignorance as a cover up act as they did not approve of her guy. Also, as as it was an arranged marriage, didn’t your folks check on her credentials before fixing the match? There is no point continuing in this marriage. She will always remain unfaithful to you. You need to take legal recourse to secure justice for you. You will need lots of strength to go through this, but this woman and her lover need to be taught a lesson for messing up your life. Your folks will have to rally behind you in this fight.

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