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Not sure if i should meet up with 43-year-old 'friend'

Dear Diana,
I'm 18. On Wednesday, I'm supposed to meet up with a 43-year-old man I met online... only I'm just not sure if I want to. We first started talking when I was 16 and he really wanted to meet me and we would talk for hours on the phone. I recently decided to get back in touch with him. Just the other day, he called to say that he's in a hotel room nearby and would love to meet me but wants it to be my decision. I know he feels like he missed out on youth and I think he is probably trying to regain some youth or something. What do you think I should do?

Name withheld
Dear Friend,
It sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. And this is really quite unsafe. You've never met him before, yet you're on the verge of meeting him? It does sound as if he's out to just use you. If you feel you have to meet him, meet in a public place not in a hotel room. And a hotel room near your home? You might not be thinking about sex. He is. And that's a fact. Have someone accompany you. Do not go off ANYWHERE with him alone. He might be some kind of predator looking for a young female to satisfy his urges. They start off sweet, but they get dangerous real quickly. DON'T listen to him. Your best bet is to cut all contact with him and ignore any further communication from him. The last thing your family needs is a missing child.

Studying the mystery in her smile

Dear Diana,
This girl in my class smiles at me and laughs in a shy manner for no reason at all. At first, I thought she was making fun of me. Now I feel she's interested in me. Am I wrong?

Avinash
Dear Avinash,
Without necessary details, it would be silly to come to any assumption much less a conclusion about what this girl thinks of you. Are you the class clown? Is she fond of you for some reason? Those are answers you'll get only if you hang around with her.

In love with her but haven't told her

Dear Diana,
I am 21 years old and in love with a girl for nearly a year now. My problem is that I haven't talked with her yet. She is in my classroom but I just look at her and can't muster the courage to talk to her. I love her a lot. How should I tell her about my love for her? Secondly, do girls love boys? I am thin and 5'5'' tall. Will she love me? She is very beautiful.

Sivi
Dear Sivi,
What the poin't of being in love if you can't proclaim it from the rooftops for the world to hear? And for an entire year at that? Go up to her and introduce yourself. Be brave, she might be beautiful but it won't kill you to hold your nerve and start with a simple 'hello'. What do girls love in boys? Different things, actually. She might be no fan of your height or weight but chances are she might fall for some of your other latent qualities. She might get to know the real you only after several meetings. Or maybe, it might take just one meeting to make that connection. You'll never know or you will miss the bus if you keep waiting for the right occasion to pop up. Take charge of your life!

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