I have been in a relationship with this girl for over a year. Her family is unaware of it. Now they are on the look out for a suitable match for her. My girl tells me that even if she informs her family about me, they will not approve of me. She feels I do not match her family's status and standard. They want someone high-flying and well off. I am from a middle-class family. Initially, she wanted time to break the news to her guys, but now it looks like she does not even want them to know about my existence. Should I just break off with her? After all this while she suddenly seems no longer interested in me.
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You need to cut off ties with her pronto. Before that you need to make her hear an earful for messing up your life. It was okay to be your girlfriend, but now suddenly she has got class conscious and you do not match her status. This girl just used you. You showered her with affection and lots of gifts. She got the attention and now she is bored of you and the relationship. If she was really interested in you, she would have told her family about you long back. The fact that she kept it hidden is clear that she was just not serious about you. Go your way and next time be wary about falling in love. Find someone who will reciprocate your love.
I am 26 and currently working in Bahrain. I visit India every six months for a fortnight. On every trip home, my parents line up girls for me. I find it irritating. I am in no hurry to get married at least for another three years. How do I tell them?
Your parents are doing what they can to find a suitable match for you. As you are away, they feel you may not meet too many like-minded girls. Instead of getting irritated, just talk it out with them and voice your apprehensions so that they understand your viewpoint.
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