We've been dating since late-2008.

She threatens to break up if I choose my bro over her

Dear Diana,

We've been dating since late-2008. We've been relatively okay, except when we do get into arguments over nonsensical things from time to time. I believe she may be a little clingy. Anyway, my brother and his girlfriend got engaged last year and decided that they would like to get married on Oct 9 (and no, they didn't know that Oct 8 was the anniversary of the day we first met) My brother has appointed me his best man. He's getting married in Pune and he'll want me there throughout the wedding preparations.

And though it's still a long way off, my girlfriend's threatening me, saying that if I go, she may break up with me! I told her I will do everything I can to have a special day with her and that we could do something the weekend before, anything! But she said it MUST be on the day or we will have no anniversary at all.u00a0 Am I wrong for wanting to be my brother's best man or am I uncaring for not being able to spend the exact day of our two-year dating anniversary with her? What should I do?

Terry

Dear Terry,

I do feel that she's being unreasonable and selfish. I know several people who quietly celebrate their own anniversaries even if they're attending a sibling's (or a relative's) wedding. And it's not like you never offered an alternative.

Spending an entire day together (with no distractions) does seem like a sound idea and I really don't see what all the fuss is about. You aren't uncaring and if you are feeling stifled and shackled by this relationship, you really should walk away. Her being adamant on a day-and-date anniversary seems quite silly and unwarranted considering there will always be next year (and other anniversaries as well).

How old is too old to be a virgin?

Dear Diana,

How old is too old to stay a virgin? I am 24 but still have not met the right man to become intimate with. I am not in a rush but I would like to know how old is too old? 25? 40?

Arti

Dear Arti,

Stay a virgin for as long as you want to and for reasons best known to you. Have sex with someone you'd want to have sex with. However, here's something to think about: Women can attract lots of men when they're in their 20s. Men in their 20s, 30s and 40s will be all over you. The older you get, the more limited your options get.

I'm a one-night stand kinda guy!

Dear Diana,

I'm a guy. I don't really think I have a problem but I think this might turn into one. The thing is: I can only have sex with a girl once. After that, I'm not interested anymore and I just move on to the next one. This one girl I had sex with is now going around saying that I treat girls like use-and-throw objects. I treat girls with respect after I've been with them. I just don't want to have sex with them a second time. Why is she so angry? I am being honest and it wasn't like I deceived her or anything.

Yaman

Dear Yaman,

An omission of the truth (that you can't remain in a 'relationship' after having sex just once) is as good as a lie. I think that when you get into a relationship (sexual or otherwise) with someone, you ought to be upfront about the 'terms' of the relationship (brunt and business-like, but saves you the heartache).

She is free to feel the way she does and you really can't blame her for being this way because she would have to explain why the two of you aren't together anymore. While you could simply get away by saying that you are an honest one-night stand kinda guy (and could live down people calling you a jerk), you have to understand that saying the same thing, reflects badly for a girl. Is she wrong? No!

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