I got married a year ago. It was an arranged marriage. I will not say that all is well in our marriage as we have been having our share of differences. I have been overlooking it, as in most relationships there are ups and downs. But recently my wife came up with a weird proposition. She wants me to take up a job abroad. She has even zeroed in on the countries I should find one. It should either be Dubai, London or New York. She feels several of her girl pals are settled abroad and she, too, needs to take off. I have tried to explain to her that it is not as easy as it sounds. I am well settled in my career and work in a multinational. I feel I earn well to maintain a decent standard of living. Relocating means having to start things afresh from scratch. How do I knock sense into her head?
Your wife may have her reasons, but she is being difficult and demanding. Just because her friends are married abroad does not mean that she has to follow suit. If you are well settled in your career and do not hanker for an overseas posting, it is your call. She cannot coerce you into taking up a new assignment just because she wants to live elsewhere. Knock sense into your her head. She is getting influenced by what her pals are telling her. You need to tell her that you are not ready for it now. Also, it is not easy to find a good job overnight. Tell her you will consider it and look for lucrative offers. This is one way of pacifying her for now. Meanwhile, you could also speak to an elder in the family to explain to her that it is easier said than done.
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