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Dear Diana,
sameer pawar
I'm 24 and was going around with a girl six years elder than me, for the past two years now. We love each other very much but knew it wouldn't be possible for us to marry. She got engaged last month and is due to marry next month.
I am totally shattered now and really want to make things work between us, as I can't see her with someone else. I have even spoken to my parents who initially disagreed. Now they can't see me like this so have offered to accept her though they're bitter inside.
Problem is, she won't talk to her parents because she knows they will never accept it and also maybe because it's too late for things to work out now. We are still in touch and I have tried a lot to convince her to speak to her parents but she doesn't feel it's right. She has resigned to her fate. I have lost interest in everything and am having sleepless nights!
Jayesh
Dear Jayesh,
From the looks of it, parents' approval matters a lot to you as it does to your girlfriend. I really don't see the point in pursuing a relationship when you didn't have the guts to go after in the first place. Things definitely won't be the same.
Your parents are grudgingly giving their blessings. That too, because you compelled them to. Breaking off an engagement is a serious decision and the two of you have to be completely sure of what you intend to do after.
You cannot expect her to speak to her parents at this juncture. Instead, you ought to try and make them understand that the two of you are made for each other. It isn't right, though. If you're just playing dog in the manger.
She's not happy with me...
Dear Diana,
I am 21 and my girlfriend is 19. We've been in a relationship for three years now and even got physical more than once. Just last month, though, she told me she wanted a break-up because she has feelings for her classmate. Moreover, she has said that she is not happy with me. But I truly love her and am ready to wait for her. What should I do?
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Amol
Dear Amol,
One really can't afford to be fickle and treat the other person in a relationship with scant regard. A break-up is usually difficult for either one or both parties involved and when one says three years, it is a long time.
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However the two of you are young and are bound to make mistakes, even take each other for granted (though that's something you should never do). I'd say your best bet is to stop moping around and move on if she's doing the same. No point being the hanger-on.
I feel love ends in the bedroom...
Dear Diana,
The problem with me is that I'm afraid to speak to any girls; speaking to strangers is even more difficult. I'd like to fall in love this year and while there are girls who are attracted to me, I'm the one who doesn't have the guts to follow it up. Also, I'm looking for true love. My ex-girlfriend was hot but we broke up because I wasn't interested in havin sex so soon. I believe that love ends in the bedroom.
Stoned Kid
Dear Friend,
Have you ever heard yourself talk? Do you know how sanctimonious you sound? This holier-than-thou attitude of yours will get you nowhere. Don't judge people just because they wish to get intimate with you and alterantively state the clauses of the relationship you have with anyone. It's stupid to say that you're afraid of making the first move even when you're getting your work cut outfor you. Also, love needn't end in the bedroom. That's the craziest, most selfish notion I've ever heard. Rather, it's just the beginning of a more intimate one.
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