Everyone I meet says I am really friendly and really sweet.

They just want me for sex. But I don't sleep around!<br/>

Dear Diana,

Everyone I meet says I am really friendly and really sweet. They all say I have a great personality. Guys think I am cute and sexy but they just want me for sex and of course, I don't give in because I am not the type to sleep around. I want relationship and sex (and not just sex).

My question is, is it because I am easy to talk to and sweet to everyone I meet? Because that's just the way I am. Oh and I don't dress slutty. I DON'T meet guys at clubs or bars. So what could be the problem?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,

Guys your age and older blokes are going to be this way. You are just this way and I really don't see why you should change for anyone else. It's not a sin to have a great personality, to be fun to talk to. That doesn't automatically mean a ticket to bed. Some guys just won't get that into their thick skulls.

Not everybody is looking for a one-night stand. You're a nice girl and you shouldn't have to put up with this. But this is the way guys are. This is the way they are going to be. Just as you won't change to have thme change their perception of you, neither will they! I think it's best you try looking for love in other places.

After sex, she disappears

Dear Diana,

I'm a 20-year-old guy. I have a girlfriend. The problem starts following the times we have sex. She just disappears off the radar only to make an appearance days later. She has no explanation when she does recieve the calls later.

Manish

Dear Manish,

You need to sit her down and ask her why it happens this way and if it is a mere coincidence. There is norationale between her actions and the act of sex itself. You haven't mentioned if this is a regular enough occurence.

Afraid of getting hurt

Dear Diana,

I have been flirting with this guy for a long time and I wasn't sure if he liked me back. I know now that he does because he told me. He's been so sweet to me and makes me feel so special. The thing is I have been badly hurt in previous relationships (the last one was two years ago) and I am afraid of getting hurt again. However, I think I love him... The problem is he's gone home (out of the country) for three weeks and I am missing him terribly.

Name withheld

Dear Friend,

But when he comes back, you'll fall for him again. Three weeks isn't near enough time to get over someone, so the moment he comes back you'll fall for him again anyway. You will really regret not speaking to him and finding out what he feels. Yes, you have been hurt.
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But it would be a shame if you didn't do anything about this and then saw him move on. Sometimes you have to take a chance. He seems like a decent enough bloke and just because you have bad experiences in the past doesn't mean they will continue.

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