Q. I am 27 years old, getting married in April. I have zero experience of sex. My question is which sexual position is the easiest? And in which position can I last longer?
A. All sexual positions have their advantages. No sexual position is harmful in anyway. You may perform in the position that you feel is enjoyable for your partner and yourself. The most common sexual position is the male superior or the missionary position where the couple is face-to-face with the man astride. The woman lies on her back with legs apart and knees flexed. It makes entry easy and facilitates the man’s pelvic thrusts. The female superior is reverse of this and most men can delay their climax in this position better.
Q. Is it normal for semen to seep out of the vagina after intercourse? Does that hamper the chances of conception?
A. It is normal for the ejaculate to seep out of the vagina after intercourse. This does not hamper conception per se. What you see is the fluid, not the sperms. Sperms are not visible to the naked eye and the lucky ones travel to meet the ovum at great speed. However, sage Vatsyayana advocates the ‘Utfullak asana,’ in which the woman brings her knees closer to her chest immediately after the man has ejaculated, retaining that position for fifteen minutes. According to the sage, this may enable more seminal fluid to enter the uterus, thereby increasing the chances of conception.
Q. Do men also bleed at the first attempt at sexual intercourse?
A. Some men (uncircumcised) do. By and large, it happens if a man has difficulty in retracting the foreskin or if there is forceful attempt at penetration during which the frenulum (a small triangular fold of skin on the underside of the glans penis, connecting the prepuce) may tear and cause bleeding. The immediate treatment is to stop the bleeding, which can be effectively done by simply putting pressure with the thumb on the bleeding spot itself.