Dear Diana,

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I was involved in a three-year affair. We're very possessive about each other and have even been intimate. Out of the blue, I fell for a colleague, proposed and began calling him every day, completely sidelining my first love. I told my boyfriend I didn't love him anymore. Later, I realised that what I was doing was wrong. Now I want to go back to him but he has no faith left in me. He thinks I was physical with the second guy. But I wasn't. I don't know what possessed me to let go of him. I've realised that I can't stay without him. Now he refuses to speak to me properly and if I do speak to him about it, he gets pissed off. Now he says he'll never return to me. Do you think I have a chance?

Priya

Dear Priya,

You can't simply fall in and out of love with people for the heck of it. Love is serious business and not something you trifle with. And to top it all, you told him to bugger off to his face. Nothing hurts a man's ego more than that. You've given him enough rope to hang you by. Now that you've 'realised' that you can't stay without him, he will us that to his advantage. If he's fallen out of love with you, there's no hope.

We can't do without each other

Dear Diana,

We've been close friends for the past two years. We've been having problems of late. We study in TY, the subjects we've taken are different and we meet for only two lectures. My friend thinks I don't have time for her anymore.We are a group of five girls and I'm not two friendly with two of them. These b***hes go and create problems between us. We have separated since. But I've realised I can't live without her. The same is the case with her. This is affecting our studies.

Name withheld on request

Dear Friend,

I'm sure the two of you can meet somewhere separately (where these two girls won't be present ) and sort out your differences. There's no reason why you should stop being friends with someone just because you fight a lot. Which friendship doesn't go through a lean patch? Talk it out with her and chalk out a plan to outwit these girls. Good luck.

How do I marry an Indian girl?

Dear Diana,

I am an Englishman (not a Person Of Indian Origin) and would love to meet a nice Indian woman with a view to marriage. I have tried to register with an Indian matrimonial agency but they only accept Indians and people of Indian origin. If I can find a Hindu Indian lady, will I have to become a Hindu myself in order to marry her?

XYZ

Dear Friend,

Don't you think you'll have to visit India at least once for that, to get a feel of the culture, the way of life, before you get into something as final as a marriage? Online and offline matrimonial agencies have safeguards in place to protect their clients and with good reason. Past indiscrepancies have resulted in several broken homes. About your changing your religion, that's a personal decision arrived at after talking it over with the girl's parents (if that's a pre-condition to the marriage).