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Dear Diana,
I was in love with a girl who was working in my company. We had a good start, everything was fine until we started to fight over petty things. She had a previous six-year relation which did not work out. She was behaving weirdly and fought over small things. I didn't realise that she was mentally disturbed and said that I couldn't marry her and we broke off. Now the situtation is that I realise that I couldn't live without her. But she won't respond. I am in madly in love with her but she feels nothing for me. She also got promoted ahead of me. I don't know if this might be the reason as well. I am doing my higher studies also and in some time will match up to her or even surpass her. I think of her all the time and cannot do anything. I feel I have lost my true love. How can I get her back.
Name withheld on request
Dear Friend,
What really is your problem? That she has surpassed you at work or that she won't give you any importance now that you broke her heart once? An error in judgment and an action taken thereof, has its consequences.
Are you willing to resign to the fact that you've lost your heart to a "mentally disturbed" person? Or that the same person did better than you at work.
There is a reason people keep their personal and professional lives apart. She feels you let her down and doesn't want to give you a second chance. You will have to hardsell your case if you want to have any hope of getting back with her.
Pyar karti lekin logon se darti hai!
Dear Diana,
I'm 24 and in love with a girl who used to teach me English. She knows that I love her and was very sad when I had to leave and go to another town for a job. I know she loves me too but is afraid of people around her. I don't want to lose her. What should I do to make her a part of my life?
Akhil
Dear Akhil,
Have you ever tried figuring out why it is that she's afraid of the people around her? The only way you can hope to love people without losing them is if you make a promise of commitment.
Maybe an engagement would put her mind to rest? If you want her so badly, the first thing you ought to do, is to pop the question.
Why won't he kiss me?
Dear Diana,
There is this boy who is very cute and sweet. But I'm not that attracted to him. We're not really going around but I go to his house often. We have reached second base, but he never kisses me! Everytime I try, he moves away. Why is that? I can't ask him because it is too embarrassing. Please help. Why is he against kissing me even though I am very pretty?
Pri
Dear Pri,
If you aren't attracted to him, it really shouldn't bother you that he doesn't want to kiss you. Besides, it seems very surprising that you should venture into second base with a guy who isn't even that interested in making out with you.
Don't give this guy that much importance. If you're as pretty as you say, you'll find scores of other eligible guys. There could be several reasons for his reluctance: bad breath, fear of not being able to kiss well, confidence issues etc
