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Dear Diana,

I think I am quite pretty and can carry short dresses quite well. Only problem is, whenever I dress so at work, my boss cannot take his eyes off me. And while I would normally take this as a compliment, a few days ago, he tried to feel me up. I don't think of him that way and have been shaking since. I have even stopped wearing short dresses to office. But he still tries to get fresh with me. I know I have got myself into a mess. But what do I do now? The job pays well. My boss is a saint in everyone's eyes. Nobody will believe me! Please help!

Ritika

Dear Ritika,

It's tough when you have to convince a majority that their perception of a good man is all hogwash. While office etiquette demands that clothing adhere to a certain level of docility and demureness, there's no clear set rule.

However, any indicretion (in dressing up) on your part shouldn't be misconstrued as a license to flirt or an excuse to get overfriendly (on the part of your boss).

If this behaviour continues and if you've served a long time at this workplace, it won't be difficult to get another job. Of course, you'll have to catch the pervert red-handed to have any hope of showing people his true face.


All I want is true love!

Dear Diana,

I am marrying a girl in the next four months. It's an arranged marriage but I really love her and can do anything for her.  In return, all I want is pure love. That's it. I followed your advice. But last month, when I went to Delhi on her b'day to meet her with loads of gifts, she kept ignoring me and was busy enjoying with her friends throughout the trip. On returning, she said it wasn't done deliberately. I spoke to my parents about it and they spoke to her parents and her. She doesn't even miss me. is this a one-way feeling? Sometimes, I feel I should find love in someone else... All I want is true love!

Kartik

Dear Kartik,

You have acertain set way of thinking and this girl obviously is following the diktats of her own mindset more than those set by her parents. while all you're asking for is a little attention and a 'pure love', you'll have to define pure love.

That she ignores her friends and her lifestyle for you? Or that she loves you and shows it as much as you do? Maybe, it's just you that's doing all the work? While it's possible that she does does love you, it's equally possible that she isn't able to show it as effectively as you.


Sloppy is as sloppy does!

Dear Diana,
For some reason or the other, I always manage to make people angry with me. Being a teenager, it is not a very difficult thing to do.  It's not that I am exceptionally stupid or absolutely irritating. It's just that I do easy enough things quite sloppily. This has happened to me, not just once, but quite often. I have tried to make an effort to change, but it has been an uphill task. What should I do?

Prathmesh

Dear Prathmesh,

People will always try to find fault with you. You may not be the epitome of stupidity or the like, but at times, a trigger is enough to set things off.

When people do certain things well, they naturally assume that others should be able to do those things equally well. And remember, change never happens overnight. Work at it, and you'll get there.