Dear Diana,

I saw this guy in my college whom I do like. Now, we don't know each other personally, and haven't spoken to each other even once. I think its more of an attitude problem here. Anyway, getting to know him won't be a problem as we have a few common friends. He gives me the kind of stares, which make me feel that he is attracted towards me as well. However, I came to know that he has a girlfriend! Now there's a part of me that urges me to put an end to all this as he is seeing someone else. But at times I feel that I should at least try to know him and talk to him, as it could turn out that he might not be serious about his girlfriend. I am really not sure!

N

Dear N,

Get to know him, then. You'll know for sure if anything might click. Stares don't mean or convey much and could get misinterpreted in  tone or intensity. If he has a girlfriend, it could be possible that these are flirty stares and nothing more. If you want to see how it goes, meet with him and put the speculation to an end. Don't ever assume something unless you're completely sure of what you're going looking for from this guy.

I've got a very short fuse

Dear Diana,

I'm 19. The biggest negative trait I have is that I get angry quite quickly. My relationships haven't quite worked out as at most times, I get angry with them and behave rudely with them. I don't know what will happen to me. I can't tolerate their attitude at times.

Name withheld on request

Dear Friend,

Are these angry outbursts a culmination of everything you've been bolltling up inside you or are they flares that are simply unprovoked? If they are unprovoked, you have to consult a psychiatrist as most often anger results in physically violent beahviour. You might not be angry, per se, enough to get you worked up with a girlfriend. But your trigger definitely needs to be checked. It's definitely unhealthy to have such a short temper.

My ex won't talk to me!

Dear Diana,

I am 29. I had been in love with a colleague  but as our parents don't approve, the relationship came to an end. I got married to another girl. Unfortunately, my ex is working in the same office. I feel I am still in love with her and that I am giving less attention to my wife. Now my ex won't talk to me. What do I do?

Ganesh

Dear Ganesh,

Why are you so surprised? You're married to someone else. She's moved on. You didn't have the guts to stand up with her. She isn't concerned with rekindling a relationship long dead. Why are you wasting time dealing with an ex? Forget about her and deal with it. Don't let personal emotions everride your personal life.