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Dear Diana,
I am a 32-year-old gay guy who had written to you about my ex-boyfriend, who is 23 years old. When I last wrote to you, I told you he hit me because I didn't buy him jeans. You advised me not to see this guy. I wish I had taken your advice. I have finally dumped him because his behaviour got from bad to worse to the extent of being abusive and disrespectful to being fully violent. He beat me up in public and it was only thanks to public intervention that i was saved. And all this happened because of money. Now, I feel totally shattered and refuse to be generous with anyone because their demands keep increasing. Diana, is gay love only about money and sex? Isn't there any one who will love without extorting money?
Avi
Dear Avi,
Money never comes into the equation when love's genuine no matter if you're gay or straight. Anyone who truly claims to love you will not extort money. If you've met only these kind of guy friends, it's probably because you're haging with the wrong bunch. Not every guy you meet will be manipulative or scheming. Don't be generous with anyone unless you completely trust the person. besides, anyone that can create a fuss over jeans was neve worth your affection in the first place. Sex is never and shouldn't ever be the be-all or end-all of a relationship. Otherwise, it simply is a relationship of convenience. Next time you meet someone you like, be extremely wary before loosening your puse-strings for them.
He married me only for my money
Dear Diana,
I'm 29 and a m struggling with married life. My husband doesn't have sex with me. In the past two years, we've made out only twice. When I try to cuddle up to or even kiss him, he yells. He married me because of my money as he isn't that well to do. I'm depressed as he doesn't want a baby because he can't afford it. He keeps abusing and insulting me and has even taken away my cellphone. I can't even be with my parents because he can't pay the airfare. Help!
Name withheld on request
Dear Friend,
If you strongly feel that he married you for money and that there's no reason to stay on in the marriage (from the sound of it, he hasn't even consummated the marriage), I think you should meet a good divorce lawyer and break it up with him. To keep turning down your requests, he'd have to have strong enough reasons. And besides, you always knew he wasn't as well-off as you. Were you so blind not to realise that you wouldn't be able to last without the luxuries you once enjoyed? Try to make it work before you take any drastic measures. But if he raises his hand on you, call it quits immediately.
Will her 'hereditary problem' affect me?
Dear Diana,
I am 23-year old and my girlfriend is 20. We've been in a relationship for two years now. We plan to marry. We've had oral sex several times. Now, she's finding white patches on herself but insists it's a hereditary problem. Will it affect me or our future together?
Karamjeet
Dear Friend,
Ideally, I think you should meet a dermatologist with your girlfriend to put your mind at rest. Just the appearance of white patches doesn't signal a problem of any kind unless its contagious. That's what you ought to find out first before having any sort of sex with your girlfriend. And even if you're practising oral sex, be safe and practise proper hygiene. | 
