Though I was aware that what I was doing was wrong, it was mere fun for me. But now I think otherwise. I'm working as an air hostess and for over half the month out of Mumbai. I am involved in a relationship with this sweet guy who thinks I'm madly in love with him. I find comfort in his company as he is very grounded and everything I'm not. It would be disastrous to let him know that I've had several flings during my time out of the country. Meanwhile, I don't want to keep him in the dark. He deserves better than me. But, I don't want to lose him too. What do I do?
Illustration/ Satish Acharya
You have created the problem and only you can get rid of it. I can understand that because of your job you may be exposed to a lot of guys and cultures, but that does not mean that you go berserk. Have you ever thought even for a moment if your guy was doing his bit of fun (as you put it?) on the side? Would you tolerate him? Would you put up to his wild ways? Surely not. Now that you have finally realised and are feeling guilty, you need to make amends. Stop all your philandering and stay committed to your sweet guy. As you say, he surely does not deserve you, but you don't want to lose him. So it's simple... stay loyal to him. And let the bygones remain bygones.