'I want to marry again at 58'
Dear Diana, I'm a 58-year-old retired man who lost his wife a decade ago. We never had kids so I'm basically left with no one except some relatives who pay me a visit once in a while.
I came across this lady who is 52. We hit it off very well and even met a few times in the past three months. I’m thinking of marrying her. Would it be a wise decision? I proposed to her but she didn’t reply. I guess she’s just shy or worried about what people will say. Personally, I don’t care about our so-called society because it wasn’t there for me when I was left lonely. Should I go ahead with the marriage if she says yes, eventually?
It looks like after your retirement you are feeling extremely lonely. Having a family around is as important in later life as during childhood. The experiences of retirement and increased leisure time may be richer if shared. But you need to tread with caution. There are not too many people who tie the knot at your age though in the West it is common. The woman may have her reservations about it. So you need to first have a frank chat with her. Also, remember all these years you have lived a solitary life, so are you ready to have someone else around? Weigh all the options before you take the plunge.