25 May,2010 10:40 AM IST | | Diana
Dear Diana,
I am a 26-year-old guy. I recently broke up with my girlfriend of six years. I lost my job not too long ago and feel that it is the reason that tore us apart. She still has a job and keeps rubbing it in my face saying I'm lazy and that she can't hang on to me if I continue to be this way.
It's not like I'm not trying. After a big fight, we decided that parting ways was best for us. I realise now that I can't live without her. I am ready to try harder but will it be too late by the time I do get something?
Name withheld on request
Dear Friend,
Maybe she is rubbing it in. Maybe she sees it as the only way you'll work harder on finding and then landing and then keeping that job. Who knows? Is she seeing someone else already? You have to wonder if it is worth sticking with a girl that has this little patience with you (the six years of togetherness not withstanding). And it's not that you didn't try to make it work out. You did try.
Stability in their man's career means a lot to some women and if that's why she left you holding the pieces of your broken heart. If you feel you can't live without her, tell her that and make her understand that she has to have patience with you. Is she prepared to wait it out till you do get back on your feet? The answer to that will determine further course of action.
He wants to be a lifelong bachelor
Dear Diana,
I've loved him two years but he is not interested in marriage. He wants to be a bachelor all his life but I do want to marry him. Help!
XYZ
Dear Friend,
What's the nature of the relationship you share? Is he interested in a live-in relationship? What's keeping him from committing to marriage? Why are you so persistent in marrying ONLY him? You've hardly told me anything about yourself or him that tells me why he is so adamant on being a bachelor all his life.
Am married... and yet, masturbate
Dear Diana,
I'm married four years now. I'm 32 and I find myself unable to stop masturbating despite having a sexual partner. We have sex reasonably often and I still feel the urge to masturbate. Is something wrong with me? Why am I like this?
Name withheld on request
Dear Friend,
We are all wired differently, with some feeling the sexual craving more than others. It's possible that simply having intercourse doesn't satiate you. Maybe you need to go the extra mileu00a0-- metaphorically speakingu00a0-- to get there. Nothing's wrong with you. You just like to masturbate as well. No sin or crime in that. Just don't tell your wife this, though. She might worry.
