'Am I jerking off too much?'

May 24, 2016, 06:00 IST | Dr. Love

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Q. I masturbate more than six times a day. Is this normal?
A. It is perfectly normal, but only for people who don't have a job, or a degree to study for, or friends to hang out with, or someone who wants to have sex with them. If you have all these things and still want to masturbate constantly, try and divert that energy towards things that will give you more than just a fleeting sense of release.

Q. Is it wrong to have sex with my ex-girlfriend if I don't love her anymore?
A. I'm not sure why you need an answer to this question. Is she forcing you to have sex with her? Does she know you don't love her anymore? Are you having sex with her because you feel guilty or because you enjoy it? Do you feel guilty about sleeping with her? This isn't about just physical pleasure, because it obviously bothers you. If she knows you're not in love with her, and is okay with the idea of having sex with you because you both enjoy it, that's between the two of you. If this isn't the case, for how long do you think you can keep up the pretence? If you have no feelings whatsoever, you have a great career in customer service or politics ahead of you.

Q. I'm confused because my boyfriend made me have sex with him.
A. I'm not sure what the confusing part is. Were you both doing something else before mistakenly falling into bed? Did he tell you he had something else in mind before having sex with you? Did you think this was going to be a session of meditation after the two of you took your clothes off? Or are you upset because you ended up having sex when you didn't want to? If the latter is true, and you feel as if you were forced into it, your boyfriend should be arrested. Don't do things you don't want to simply because you want to hold on to a boyfriend. Talk to a family member about this today.

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