'Cybersex can be fun, but addictive'
Introducing Dr Love, who solves your relationship riddles in a confusing digital age
Q. Is cybersex healthy?
A. I think the more relevant question here is who you intend to have cybersex with. There are pros and cons, of course, but there are strong arguments for why it's often great with someone you're in a relationship with. It encourages you to experiment, for instance, and helps you gain confidence with your partner, making the actual act of sex pleasurable when you get down to it (hoping you do get down to it, eventually). For single people, there's the aspect of safety that makes it interesting, combined with the convenience. Having said that, it can be dangerous for a number of reasons too. For one, you can become an addict. Studies show that 1 in 5 Internet addicts are engaged in some form of online sexual activity, which is not a good sign. The other thing is the nature of anonymity that can work for, as well as against you, preventing you from having any real engagement with another person. You have to think about this carefully and figure out whether the pros outweigh the cons.
Q. Is safe sex necessary if I have just one partner?
A. Let's dispense with a few myths about safe sex: It does not imply that one of you has a sexually transmitted infection, for one, nor does using condoms make sex any less pleasurable. Let's also point out that buying condoms simply shouldn't be embarrassing in 2016, if that's what's stopping you. Having said that, this is really something you and your partner need to figure out, isn't it?
Safe sex becomes an issue depending on the nature of your relationship. Practicing safe sex in your teens, for instance, will ensure you don't become a mother or father at 18. Discuss this with your doctor instead of relying on the advice of a stranger sharing an opinion in a newspaper.
Q. I like eating edible undergarments. Is this normal behaviour?
A. You're probably just a hungry pervert with a weird fetish. Who isn't?
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