The problem with Indian men, says Cyrus Broacha, in his new book, 23 And A Half Ways to Make A Girl Fall For You (published by Rupa), is not that they have no shame but that they have no game
Cyrus Broacha
The problem with Indian men, says Cyrus Broacha, in his new book, 23 And A Half Ways to Make A Girl Fall For You (published by Rupa), is not that they have no shame but that they have no game. They simply are drowning in, according to his vocabulary, SAG (Social Awkwardness and Guilt).
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He writes, “The Indian male approaches women with mostly great trepidation, and even horror. He traditionally has no game. He will occasionally offset this, by over-compensating and acting overconfident around women.”
One of the most striking observations in the book, disappointingly there are not many of the kind, is the spectacle of how Indian men stare longingly at women, holding hands of other men. He writes, “They check the women out, mouths agape, pupils dilated in the time-honoured tradition of the village lout, but lo and behold, whilst always, holding each other’s hands, tenderly.”
He also documents his experience as an agony aunt, advising boys of 12 to men of 74 about all matters women. In one case, he had to convince a boy that if a girl’s relatives come and assault you, it may not necessarily mean that she is in love with you. In another, he had to heartbreakingly inform a man that because a girl recognised him once, it does not mean that she has agreed to marry him.
Among the highly optimistic letter writers, one post still stood out for its revelatory and perhaps, revolutionary approach. After stalking a woman for a whileâu00c2u0080u00c2u0088— wearing clothes that matched colours with herâu00c2u0080u00c2u0088— a man poked her with
an umbrella. He was puzzled that what could be called his pick-up poke did not work and said woman stopped coming to the bus stop.
Broacha says that this wealth of knowledge had piled up in his show stints and while writing a column. “I think all that awkwardness also leaves our men lonely and they want to open up to someone as they sense that something isn’t right,” he says. And he, sincerely, tried to deal with the issues with his own experience. “From my failures and failures of my friends, I had gathered some wisdom about these things and imparted them generously,” he says.
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