'I think he was cheating on me on his birthday'
I really wanted to surprise my boyfriend on his birthday, so I went to his office with cake and found that he hadn't even turned up to work that day
I really wanted to surprise my boyfriend on his birthday, so I went to his office with cake and found that he hadn't even turned up to work that day. I called from the receptionist's desk to ask where he was, and he promptly said he was busy at work. I think he's cheating on me. I don't even want to see him anymore. I thought I could trust him and I can't
It's hard to figure out what your boyfriend is doing by lying so blatantly, but I suggest you confront him and give him a chance to explain first. There may be a perfectly logical explanation and, if there isn't, maybe your confrontation will compel him to be honest. Either way, don't jump the gun and do anything drastic without speaking to him first.
I have been dating someone for a few months now and really like her. Our relationship hasn't been healthy though, because we have a few differences. Everything was fine at the start, but we are both jealous of the other one speaking to another man or woman. We broke up for a while before getting back together. I really love her and think I have a future with her, but I'm worried about her commitment to me. I can't make her trust me more. Should I let the relationship go? - Rahim W
Everything you say about commitment and trust comes with time. You say you have been dating this person for a few months, and have already ended it once, so I suggest you stop focusing on a future with her and concentrate on how the two of you are getting along in the present instead. You both need to be comfortable enough with each other to get to a stage where trust and affection come naturally. Don't think about ending it every time you have a minor issue. Relationships take time to build. These are just teething problems. Give it time. More importantly, give her time.
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