'My father won't let me date before marriage'

Updated: Jan 24, 2018, 09:06 IST | Dr Love

My father wants me to avoid dating until I marry. This is unfair and ridiculous because he had no such rules for my elder sister. How do I change his mind?

Dr. Love

Dr. LoveMy father wants me to avoid dating until I marry. This is unfair and ridiculous because he had no such rules for my elder sister. How do I change his mind?

You simply have to ask him why the rules have changed, before you try and convince him to break them

There was a girl I used to know in school who said she had a huge crush on me. I didn't say anything to her at the time, and pretty much ignored her after a while. A few years later, after I graduated from college, I ran into her again at an office and she was dramatically different. She was pretty, intelligent, great to talk to and I suddenly realised I had a crush on her. I told her about school and asked her if she remembered telling me that she liked me, and she replied saying she wasn't the same person and I wasn't the kind of guy she would go out with anymore. I think am a little obsessed with her since that meeting and stalk her online in the hope of asking her out. What do I do?

People change. Someone they like today isn't necessarily the kind of person they may be attracted to a few years down the line. Why are you holding something she said as a child against her, now that she is an adult with clearer ideas about what she likes and doesn't like? If she's not interested, she's not interested. How do you expect her to change her mind when she knows who you are and is clear about the fact that she doesn't want to date you? How will stalking her help at all? If you want to ask her out for a cup of coffee, do that, in the hope of giving her a better idea of the person you have grown into. If she refuses though, you may simply have to accept her decision and move on. This isn't a soap opera.

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