'My wife's a b***h, I feel like cheating on her'

Updated: Dec 07, 2016, 15:35 IST | Dr. Love

My wife behaves badly with my parents, her own parents and siblings, as well as our child. I have tried to get her to change, but that hasn't worked...

I am 37 years old and have had a difficult life. I work as an IT consultant, as does my wife. I have no siblings or friends with whom I can share my feelings. My wife behaves badly with my parents, her own parents and siblings, as well as our child. I have tried to get her to change, but that hasn't worked. I now realise that I have come a long way by being a workaholic, but I miss having a childhood. I want to be a child again, immature in behaviour, keeping aside my professional achievements. There is a young girl in our society who I have started liking and loving, because of her behaviour. We don't speak much, but she is friendly with everyone, including my child. She is not aware of my feelings. I don't wish to betray my wife, but I am increasingly attracted towards her because of her unconditional love for children. I don't understand if this is love or infatuation, and I don't know if I should control myself or get into a relationship considering I have to stay in the same society with my family. I wish to enjoy, but find myself in a dilemma about ethics and love. The little boy in me wants to enjoy.
— Ritesh S


You are an adult, whether you like it or not. Reliving your childhood may sound like a great thing, but you have responsibilities towards your wife and child that you simply can't ignore. You don't know this girl at all, and have never had a normal conversation with her. Chances are she sees you as an older man and is simply friendly because she likes your child. None of this makes for a strong argument for your wish to get into a relationship with her. Living in the same society complicates it. I suggest you put this idea out of your mind and focus on improving your relationship with your wife instead. Speak to a counsellor.

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