'All night, I fantasise about my colleague'

Updated: Jan 03, 2017, 10:29 IST | Dr Love

I am married, and the person I like is also married and has two children. We both work in the same organisation. We are good colleagues...

I am married, and the person I like is also married and has two children. We both work in the same organisation. We are good colleagues. I wouldn’t call us friends because we only talk about professional things. It’s been more than a month since I started feeling something special for him though. I somehow get the feeling he likes me too. Maybe I’m wrong, but I can see it in his eyes. I have sleepless nights and just keep thinking about him. We are in our mature 30s. I am so confused, I don’t know what to do. Please help me figure this out.
- Priyanka A






I don’t know what it is you expect me to help you with. Are you saying you are no longer happy in your marriage? Do you wish to end this on the premise that you are attracted to someone else who, for all practical purposes, may not be interested in you at all? You don’t know this person in anything other than a professional capacity, and have never had a conversation with him about anything other than work. On what are you basing this assumption that he has feelings for you too? Is he dissatisfied with his marriage too? Do you believe he is no longer interested in his wife and children? I think this is just infatuation, nothing else. Everything you think or feel about his feelings for you is based on conjecture. You can’t base your future on something so impractical. I suggest you evaluate your own feelings a little more carefully, and figure out how you feel about your own situation. I also suggest you try and speak to him about things other than work to try and gauge the kind of person he is. Don’t make decisions about your life or future without a bit of introspection. Life, as you ought to know by now, is not a Bollywood movie.

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