'He says he'll commit suicide if she rejects him'
My girlfriend is confused because her best friend has proposed to her and said that if she doesn’t agree to his proposal, he may kill himself. Please tell me what to do...
My girlfriend is confused because her best friend has proposed to her and said that if she doesn’t agree to his proposal, he may kill himself. Please tell me what to do.
— Raj M
There’s nothing you can do. This is between your girlfriend and her best friend. If she thinks he’s serious, she ought to inform someone in his family so he doesn’t do anything drastic. He obviously doesn’t accept her going out with you, so that’s something he needs to come to terms with too. Threatening to kill himself in order to persuade someone to go out with him is a stupid thing to do. I suppose this is what happens when one is raised on inane Bollywood films. Ask her to speak to an older family member about this.
I don’t have a social media account, and it sometimes feels as if I’m missing out on life. My friends are constantly tweeting, checking into places on Facebook, or putting up photographs on Instagram. It’s not as if I hate this stuff, but I don’t like the idea of sharing things with people who aren’t my close friends. They think I’m being childish, but I think they’re the ones who aren’t growing up and looking at how this is changing their lives. What do you think about my decision?
I love your decision. You will find, as you grow older, that the opinion of very few people actually matters. I love the idea that you concentrate on living, and sharing your life with a few people, as opposed to living in order to score brownie points on Twitter or Facebook likes from people who don’t really know you at all. I don’t know if social media platforms will continue to be as important to human beings as they are today, but I do know that going about your day without the constant need for approval is a spectacular way of living. Our parents did it for centuries and they managed just fine. Don’t do anything you don’t want to.
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