'I want a girlfriend but don't know how to get one'

Feb 03, 2017, 06:00 IST | Dr Love

I have no girlfriend. Please tell me what I can do about this

I have no girlfriend. Please tell me what I can do about this. — Raj
I don't know you personally, so there's little I can say about why you're still single. I suppose you could start by just speaking to a few women though, and getting to know them a little before trying to get into a relationship with one of them.

I am doing something wrong but am unable to control myself. I am a married man with two children and a beautiful wife. I have been having an affair with another woman, who happens to be my brother's wife. She is also very interested in me and we have been physically intimate, but I want to stop this. What can I do? — KP

The fact that you recognise how wrong this is ought to be enough for you to stop. I'm not sure how I can help, considering you are already aware of your mistake. Think about your family and how this will affect them. Think about how important your family is to you and do the right thing. Also, the fact that this woman happens to be your brother's wife means you are damaging not just his family as well, but your relationship with him. If these reasons aren't strong enough for you to reconsider your extramarital affair, I'm afraid nothing will help.

I want to go on holiday with my boyfriend but he says he's busy with work. He's always busy with work and never agrees to go on a trip together. Should I end this relationship?
If he says he's busy with work, shouldn't you give him the benefit of doubt and assume he is? Is there something he's doing that makes him a bad boyfriend, apart from not going on a trip with you? I don't see why something as trivial like this should make you consider ending your relationship. If you feel so strongly about this, tell him. Give him a chance to explain too.

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