Should I tell her I've had a crush on her for a year?

Jun 14, 2017, 06:00 IST | Dr Love

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I have been trying to ask someone out for a year now, but can't figure out how to do it without seeming a little desperate. I am considering sending an anonymous message, but that sounds creepy. Should I just go up to her and say hello?

Yes. You've waited for a year, and life does not always give you second chances. At the very least, you ought to find out whether or not this person will even consider going out with you. Anonymous messages solve nothing. If she wants to go out with you, she will. If she doesn't, it will allow you to move on.

I have been in a relationship for 3 years now. We really love each other a lot and our bond is unbreakable. Unfortunately, my family is not going to agree to our marriage because he is my cousin. His family has agreed, but my mother behaves very badly with him. He is a very emotional and kind-hearted man and I can't bear to see him get hurt in any way. What should I do to make him happy? — Devleena D

I'm not sure what I can suggest, considering this really is your decision. The jury is out on cousins marrying, so I can't comment on that aspect of your relationship. It's really up to you both to decide what you want to do next, given the fact that you have the same relatives. If you want him to be happy, and are convinced that being with him is best for you both, you should both speak to your family members and put across your arguments. I assume you are both adults, so what you choose to do with your lives is really your business alone. Speak to friends and well-wishers, find out what they have to say and make an informed decision about what you want to do next. It is only people who know you both well who can give you advice that actually helps.

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