'She refuses to have sex unless I shower first'

Updated: Jan 19, 2018, 13:06 IST | Dr Love

My girlfriend insists that I take a shower before we have sex. This is humiliating. I have asked her why she insists, and she says I have body odour, which I do not. What should I do? I can't keep doing this every time

My girlfriend insists that I take a shower before we have sex. This is humiliating. I have asked her why she insists, and she says I have body odour, which I do not. What should I do? I can't keep doing this every time.
If she likes having sex with a clean person, she's normal. If it makes her happy, and makes you a cleaner person, why does it bother you?

How do I tell my boyfriend that our sex life is a joke? We have been together for six months and he has been awful in bed all this time. I didn't give it too much importance at first, because things can be clumsy in any new relationship, but it sometimes feels as if he is going from bad to worse. He doesn't know what foreplay means, is barely interested in my pleasure, and rushes off minutes after we're done. He's not an awful person, and is quite caring and sensitive when we're not having sex, so I fail to understand why he behaves like this the minute we enter the bedroom. How do I get him to see things from my point of view?
A lot of men don't know what foreplay means, which is why there are so many angry people on Twitter these days. If your boyfriend doesn't care about anything but his own pleasure, that is an extremely selfish thing to do, and not at all helpful to a relationship. Being caring and attentive inside the bedroom is as important as it is outside, possibly more so because that's what physical intimacy is about. Why don't you simply sit him down, bring his ego down to Earth and help him understand that he's not as good as the probably thinks he is? A lot of men are delusional about how good they are in bed, and need to be informed that not everything they touch turns to gold. Tell him how bad he is as a favour to women everywhere.

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