'The love of my life is marrying someone else'
I have been dating a guy for seven years. We were both very serious, as were our parents, until we separated for a year on account of a personal reason
I have been dating a guy for seven years. We were both very serious, as were our parents, until we separated for a year on account of a personal reason. I recently found out that he is marrying someone else. He called to tell me that he's still in love with me, but can't marry me. This depressed me, because I can't forget about him. If he loves me, why can't he marry me?
— Priya S
I'm not sure what you can do, except to let him go, considering he isn't going to marry you. If he says he loves you, but his actions prove otherwise, what exactly do you think will happen? Being depressed about it is a natural reaction, because this is someone you were close to for a long period. What's equally true, however, is that you will be able to put this behind you and get on with your life because
it will get easier to deal with in time.
My girlfriend thinks it's perfectly okay to insult me in front of her friends, while I'm supposed to be well behaved and not say anything while they're around. I have to force myself to laugh along and treat it as a joke, when it is never really funny. I have asked her not to do this repeatedly, and she only takes my requests as a reason to provoke me even more the next time. This doesn't make sense, because she knows how much it hurts me. How do I deal with it?
Relationships are built on mutual respect, and her inability to treat your requests seriously points to a lack of it. If she insists on hurting you, what exactly do you gain from being with this person? If you have told her quite clearly about how you feel, and she continues to believe that insulting you in public is perfectly acceptable, you need to evaluate this relationship and ask yourself if it's worth it.