Why did her pals have to join us on our dinner date?
I wanted to have a nice romantic dinner with my girlfriend a week ago, which was completely ruined when she met some of her friends at that same restaurant and invited them to join us
I wanted to have a nice romantic dinner with my girlfriend a week ago, which was completely ruined when she met some of her friends at that same restaurant and invited them to join us. I didn't mind because she was having such a good time, but they ended up staying with us for the entire evening, during which time my girlfriend barely spoke to me. I didn't say anything because I didn't want to start an argument, but she didn't even acknowledge that what she did was insensitive. I don't have a problem with her friends, but she could easily have told them that she was spending that evening chatting with me. The fact that she chose their company over mine is sad, but what makes it worse is how oblivious she is to how I feel. How do I get her to change her behaviour?
Does she ignore you when the two of you aren't out for a romantic dinner? Did you tell her what you wanted when you took her out that night? Does she do this often? If she had a good time, wasn't that what you hoped the outcome would be? Would you rather she didn't have a good time as long as you did? If she hasn't said a word about that evening, is this because she doesn't have a clue about what that dinner meant to you or because she doesn't even suspect that she did anything to annoy you? My point is, a lot of this can be sorted out if you just tell her what her actions meant. She isn't a mind-reader. If you feel ignored, tell her. If you want dinner to just be the two of you, tell her in advance. She didn't plan on meeting her friends there, did she? This is hardly something to get upset about. Don't blow up trivial issues into problems that simply don't need to exist. A relationship is about understanding another person. Try it.
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