'Forget why your girlfriend's on Tinder, why are you?'

May 26, 2016, 06:47 IST | Dr. Love

Introducing Dr Love, who solves your relationship riddles in a confusing digital age

Q. I found my girlfriend's profile on Tinder. Does this mean she's cheating on me?
A. Don't jump the gun. Maybe she's just looking for new friends, which is entirely plausible. Not everything online exists only for people desperately trying to hook up. Have you tried asking her why her profile is on that app? More importantly, why were you on that app if you are supposedly in a relationship? Double standards? Are you looking for a hook-up? What's good for you ought to be good for her too.

Q. Are there any 'anger management' type courses available?
A. There are a number of courses advertised, of course, but maybe the thing to do is talk to a professional counsellor before you jump in. Do you need anger management classes yourself? Is there someone in your family who needs them? Have they been recommended to you by a professional? Have you tried other means or methods of controlling this anger? Do you recognise the source of it? A bit of introspection is strongly recommended. Anger management is important because it affects your health and, more importantly, your relationships with people closest to you. If you feel as if you can't get through the day without screaming your head off or banging your fists against a wall, you should try talking to someone today.

Q. Should I move in with him before marriage?
A. That depends entirely on how you view this relationship. Do you want to try and see how it works before taking it to the next level? Is this about convenience? Do you both think it makes sense to do this before actually tying the knot? Moving in is great for building intimacy, of course, provided you know why you're doing it. It's also a great way of figuring out whether you really can stand the idea of living with this person for the rest of your life. If you're comfortable with the idea, and you both think it makes sense, maybe you should give it a shot. Good luck.

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